Choosing the Right Vibrator

When buying a new sex toy, it’s very difficult to know where to start. Even if you have an idea of what you might like, there are so many options to choose from! The variation of toys that you can get, even from the same category, can be overwhelming. This guide breaks down some of the most common sub-categories of vibrators to help you make an informed decision.

Strap-On Sex and Pegging

If strap-on sex or pegging appeals to you but you’re not sure where to start, this guide has what you need to learn the basics of strap-on sex, including how to choose the right products, how to ease into it, and how to wrap up a scene.

Vaginal Dilators

If using sex toys or having penetrative sex is painful for you, you might want to consider dilator therapy. Vaginal dilators can help stretch the vagina to make penetration more comfortable over time and can be purchased in a kit to slowly work up in size.

Lube Guide

What’s the difference between water-based and silicone-based lubes? Are they all safe to use with condoms? Are they all safe to use with toys? Read up on the basics of sexual lubricants and find out how to find the best one for you!

Munches

A “munch” is a gathering of kinky people in a low-key, vanilla setting. They’re perfect for folks who want to meet kinky friends without the pressures of a play party. Learn all about what to expect at your first munch in this Q&A guide.

Vegan Toy Guide

A lot of people are familiar with veganism when it comes to food, but not many people consider it as an option when it comes to their sex life. Salem and I discuss why people go vegan in the bedroom and tell you about our favorite vegan retailers.

Sex Toy Material Guide

Sex toys can bring amazing pleasure, but they can also harbor bacteria and bring infections if you’re not careful. One of the most important factors in sex toy safety is the material your toys are made of. Don’t sweat, though! There are really simple guidelines to follow for most cases.

Body Writing

Body-writing is a largely versatile kink that anyone from beginners to those with years of experience can enjoy. It’s a simple activity for many kinksters and can often incorporate other kinks, as well. A little creativity and a writing tool is all you need to kick off an enjoyable evening.

Wax Play

Wax play is a great activity that beginners and experienced kinksters can enjoy. It’s simple and pretty easy to do safely if you follow a few basic rules.

Sub Drop

Sub drop is a natural part of BDSM for some people, but it can be difficult to navigate. Learn to better understand what’s going on in you or your partner’s body and how to combat the negative side effects of kink.

Long-Distance Relationships

Long-distance relationships aren’t always easy. Read about keeping a strong connection even when you’re not with each other, how to set up a special date night, and what to send your loved one in a care package made just for them!

Punishments

Discipline is part of the core focus of BDSM but what is punishment? How does it differ from “funishment?” Read about the psychology behind punishments and some examples you can use in your exploration of kink and behavior modification.

Safewords

Safewords are an important aspect of kink because they help establish consent and signal when someone needs to stop a scene. Read about how to properly use verbal safewords and other forms of consent signaling.

Virginity

Surprise, it’s actually a construct! Background on the concept of “virginity,” what to expect, and how to make the most of your first sexual experience.